What Good is It?

The last word in ignorance is the man who says of an animal or plant: “What good is it?”

– Aldo Leopold

1887 – 1948 born in Burlington, Iowa

Aldo Leopold is considered to be the the father of wilderness management.  In Baraboo, Wisconsin where he made his home on “a worn out farm”,  March 2-4, 2012 is Aldo Leopold weekend.

On this sand farm in Wisconsin, first worn out and then abandoned by our bigger and better society, we try to rebuild, with shovel and axe, what we are losing elsewhere. It is here that we seek—and still find—our meat from God.

Foreword to A Sand County Almanac (1949), ASCA viii

Sand County Almanac by Aldo Leopold

All over the USA including in Ames, Cedar Rapids, and Perry Iowa, there will be people getting together to learn more about his Leopold’s legacy.

Check out the calendar to see whether there is a hike, a Green Fire film screening, a service project or a reading of his works in your area in early March.

Green Fire is a 2011 full length documentary about Aldo Leopold’s life.

Baby New Year Tames the Dragon

My sister’s family sent us their annual Happy Holidays and New Year’s card.  My niece stuck this cute twin Year of the Dragon sticker on the card for Ace and Mark.

When we SKYPED, I discovered I was not the first person in my family to have a blog.  My 11-year old niece started her blog in September 2011, a month before I did.

If only I could read it.

You see the blog is written in Japanese.  My niece speaks and writes Japanese AND English perfectly.

What a smart little Dragon.

Born December 31st, she was truly Baby New Year flying in on the dragon’s back.

Happy 2012 Year of the Dragon Greetings

As I reflect on how these children communicate and what they know, I think they have an amazing life ahead of them.

Don’t Judge a Book by Its Cover

"Why are you here?" "I dunno. Why are YOU here?" "I wish I knew."

I am quite certain that each of us is born to learn something.  As we encounter challenges, it is imperative to ask ourselves, why am I seeing this challenge?  What am I supposed to learn from it?

Sometimes the challenge is very obvious as in the case of Carly, a sixteen-year old girl with autism.

When Carly and her twin sister were two years old, her parents noticed a significant difference in their development.  Carly was diagnosed with autism while her sister was not.  Carly was completely non-verbal and displayed the challenges other autistic children exhibit – flapping arms, tantrums, banging her head on the floor, and other uncontrolled movements.

Then the break-through.

One day she ran to the computer and typed HURT.  Next she typed HELP before throwing up.

Using the computer, the eleven year old Carly finally began to communicate.  The amazing thing was she saw herself as a normal girl trapped in “this body”.  Her body was highly sensitive to stimuli so normal sounds, smells, tastes and touch overwhelmed her.  To manage the stimulus overload, she countered the input with output.

Fast forward five years – after many hours of working, Carly has become a celebrity particularly within the autism community.  She has been interviewed by Ellen Degeneres, The Talk and CBS News.  Her blog has 15,000 followers and she is writing a novel.  I was overwhelmed with admiration for this young woman who typed out

“I am autistic but that’s not who I am.  Take time to know me before you judge me.”

Whatever obstacle I identify during the Brand New Me class tomorrow, I can hardly imagine Carly would call it a challenge.

I copied a quote of hers and taped it to my bathroom mirror.  Tomorrow when I brush my teeth, Carly’s words will be in front of me.

“I think the only thing I can say is don’t give up.  Your inner voice will find its way out.  Mine did.” – Carly

You can read Carly’s Blog and watch the CBS News segment on YouTube.

A Day in the Life of Unexpected Coincidences

Sketch of Old Manama in 1977 taken from the alley we turned left down. La Fontaine is white building on the left in the distance. It has a round balcony. All the other buildings have been torn down now.

Bahrain is filled with the unexpected.  I never know what might happen or who I might meet.

Yesterday after yoga, I picked up Susan and drove across the island to the smaller, Amwaj Island for the market.  When I asked the guard for directions, he told me,

“Two roundabouts drive straight.  Left at three roundabout.”

After two roundabouts I came to a real intersection and saw umbrellas to my left.  The guard must have meant for me to turn at the third intersection.

We parked at The Lagoon where umbrellas were set up along the water’s edge.  As the DJ played Chammak Challo, Susan and I danced around the mostly Bahraini vendors selling mini-cupcakes, personalized towels embroidered with Fatima and Ahmed, Manchester United shirts, bedazzled abayas, plants, Lebanese costume jewelry and paraphernalia featuring the Bahraini flag and the Prime Minister.  We never found the photographer Mairi Thomas’ table and I wondered if something happened to her.

Susan and I only had 30 minutes to shop because we were supposed to meet Sensai Amr and Debbie for a Bahrain Karate Association photo shoot with local magazine, Woman This Month.  I understood the magazine was going to take photos of our karate class.

It was only after we exited the elevator at the Intercontinental Hotel’s rooftop health club that I realized our class was doing an exhibition for a women’s health expo.  Dressed in my Gi, I passed my friend Shandra who was there for socializing.  She kissed me and for some reason wished me luck.  I slid in the door just in time to bow to Sensai Amr.

Sensai Amr split us into two groups – the white robed BKA members and the Others, a rag-tag army of leotard wearing initiates.  As the TV camera focused on the anticipated action, my opponent, who was much bigger than my regular classmates, attacked me like she was on Survivor.  Despite defending myself against her flailing arms, I got voted off BKA’s debut production.

When our hour was over, Susan and I zoomed home so I could get ready for an event where I knew I would shine – the Bahrain Writer’s Circle dinner.

A holiday party should be easy, but I worried about the journey to my favorite Bahraini venue – La Fontaine Centre for Contemporary Art.   Located in the heart of old Manama, it is one of the most difficult places to get to even in normal circumstances.

My friend said “trust me, I know an easier way,” and navigated me between the new concrete barriers behind the British Embassy.  I wove through a series of dark, narrow alleys where there was only room for one car to shimmy between the parked cars on both sides.  In front of a cold store, a man waiting for his wife halted our progress.   Bumper to bumper, I tapped – beep, beep – and like a typical Bahraini, he kindly backed up.  After an unexpected left turn, we ended up right at the front door where a parking spot was waiting for us.  Amazing!

Our good fortune continued.

Visiting Poet Christopher Merrill

Visiting American Christopher Merrill stepped off his plane and arrived on time to read from two books of his poetry and his 2011 non-fiction work The Tree of the Doves: Ceremony, Expedition, War.  Mr. Merrill is the Director of the International Writing Program at the University of Iowa.  A very generous man, he spoke with nearly every writer at the meeting.

Gulf Daily News - Visiting poet Christoper Merrill and Oud player Hasan Hujairi

Like Mr. Merrill, my family was from Iowa.

Hasan Hujairi at La Fontaine Centre for Contemporary Art

Next, experimental musician Hasan Hujairi played the oud for us.  He described Cherry Blossoms as a fusion between a traditional Japanese song and a well-loved Iraqi tune.  He got the idea while studying in Japan and playing with Japanese guitarists.

That was interesting.  My sister lives in Japan.  And her Japanese husband played guitar with a girls’ band who sang traditional Japanese songs.

Afterwards I chatted with this talented – and charming – Bahraini musician.  Not only did he speak perfect English and Arabic, but he also spoke Japanese.  And he studied in Iowa!

December Moon over La Fontaine Centre, Manama Bahrain

I don’t know whether the eclipse last night played a part in this mysterious night of coincidences but under the December moon in Bahrain,  we proved there were less than six degrees of separation between people.  Thanks to my friend, the writer/bouncer Robin Barrett, it was a night of unexpected pleasures.

Later I read an email from Mairi Thomas.  She wrote two markets were held in Amwaj on the same day demonstrating once again I never know what to expect in Bahrain.

America’s Most Famous Expat Housewife – Julia Child

Your passport is stamped “Not Permitted to Take Up Any Employment” do you whither or do you soar?

Recently, I ran into an old banking colleague.  Like all new expats, her initial six months was flurried activity setting up house.  But now her life had settled.

She asked me “what do you all day when your “housewife” status becomes your reality?”

Like other freedoms, the freedom to do nothing can be an opportunity or a curse.

Some women use the time as an extended holiday: shopping, nightly parties and recuperating on the beach during the day.  Others sit alone in their house and complain about the differences.

Or you can be like Julia Child.

In the movie Julie and Julia, after attending her husband Paul’s glittering photo exhibit, Julia asked him “What should I do?”

He said, “What would you like to do?”

“I think I will take up hat making.”

Paul lifted his eyebrows at her and said “You like hats.”

Julia tried hat making.  She quickly became bored and tried bridge.  Bridge wasn’t enough.

However Julia found her love in Paris.

“I fell in love with French food – the tastes, the processes, the history, the endless variations, the rigorous discipline, the creativity, the wonderful people, the equipment, the rituals.”

She followed her love to the Cordon Bleu Cooking School.  It was there cutting onions and beating egg whites she found her passion.

“I was beginning to feel la cuisine bourgeoise in my hands, my stomach, my soul.”

Her passion led her to earn a degree in French cooking.  She and her two French friends started Les Trois Gourmande cooking school teaching American housewives how to cook.

During the eight years Paul’s assignments moved them from Paris to Marseille to Pottsdam to Oslo,  Julia perfected her recipes and typed out Mastering the Art of French Cooking.  When Paul retired and was left with an unstructured life ahead of him, it was Julia’s interest that saved them.  Their collaboration led to the first televised cooking show in 1963 when Julia was 51-years old.  She did not stop teaching until she was 88-years old.

To me, Julia’s life story is her most important legacy.  Married at forty, unable to have children, she found herself and her creativity outside the confines of her Pasadena, California upbringing.  Her life began the day she became an expat housewife and asked herself “What do I do?”

My Life in France by Julia Child and Alex Prud’homme

Julia Child’s delightful autobiography is My Life in France.  Her enthusiasm is contagious and reading the book is a marvelous way to lift your soul.  If you only have two hours to spare, the movie Julie and Julia is a great alternative.

Julia Child and Meryl Streep from the Nora Ephron movie “Julie and Julia”

PS Today the Corden Bleu Cooking School specifically mentions Julia Child as one their notable graduates.

Nothing Ever Comes Out of Negative Thinking – Pearl’s Wisdom

Wishbone Tree by Pearl Fryar

“It wasn’t important to me to create a garden.  I wanted to create a feeling that when you walked through you felt differently than you did when you started.”  Pearl

When I need inspiration I watch A Man Named Pearl, a documentary about self-taught artist Pearl Fryar.  Pearl’s living art can be seen at the South Carolina State Museum or at his masterpiece, the backyard of his home in Bishopville, South Carolina.

Pearl could not move into the white neighborhood because the neighbors were afraid a black man would not take care of his yard.  Ironically it was his sharecropper father’s advice “You must find a way to rise above average” that spurred him to find his passion in gardening.

He moved far beyond planting petunias to growing plants the nursery threw away and turning them into forty-foot topiaries.   Pearl’s inspired pruning eventually got him the Garden of the Month award, but more importantly his hard work has inspired children, his neighbors, aspiring artists and gardeners – and me.

“He made me feel like there are no limits.  My age would not stand in my way.”

Pearl Fryar

This 72 year old man’s energy is regenerated by living his passion and working with nature.  The miracles he grows are simply a reflection of his belief to “make sure you use that creative ability in some way.”

And his positive energy has extended out to his community.  Pearl donated several of his trees to beautify the town.  His contribution has helped revitalize the local businesses as busloads of tourists weaving through country highways to catch a glimpse of Pearl’s garden stop to see his creations.

If you ever go to South Carolina, make the effort to see the garden of Love Peace and Goodwill.  “You can feel some kind of spirit within it,” explains one visitor in the film.  “He’s not just doing it for show.  It’s something within.”

Love Peace and Goodwill - Pearl Fryar's Garden

What I’d Do With a Little Potential

Potential from 2009 Curly Girl Calendar

The boys’ friend had his 11th birthday on 11/11/11.  That was cool.  Besides the Egyptians choosing to close down the Giza pyramids for “maintenance” yesterday, nothing changed in my world.  What about yours?

But Change is in the air.

I see it in the generation born in the 70s and 80s.  They believe in their creative talents and are living their bliss.  Using technology, they are building new communities based on shared passions and generosity of Spirit.

One of these 30 somethings is artist Leigh Standley.  Her Curly Girl Designs’ collages and witty wisdom captured my attention.

If you look at her website and blog, you will discover her world, where these artists, mainly women, are living their dream.  Building upon what they love, they have transformed their thoughts into things they can share/sell.

But they are doing it to create the world THEY WANT to live in:  A world where people generously share their knowledge.  A world where they congratulate each other on their achievements.  A world where they believe the more you give, the more you will receive.

Leigh is the soul sister I never knew I had.  Like me she enjoys traveling, old movies, singing, yoga and her family.  Because of all her good qualities, I don’t hold it against her that she prefers Snickers to Bounty and her dog Lucy to our dog Max.

She believes in education and magic – just like me.

And she is quite certain that given a cape and a nice tiara, she could save the world.

I love these fearless women who are smart enough to pick up a cute pair of shoes when they head out to change a few things.

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